None of this Matters
I care a lot about Incubator and anyone involved in it. Not because it’s important, but because I’ve decided it’s important.
What we’re doing here doesn’t matter in the grand scheme of things.
It doesn’t matter if humans exist.
We’re a speck in the universe, imperceptibly small.
We’ve existed for a cosmic nanosecond and if we disappeared the universe wouldn’t care.
But since we’re here and we have the ability to create meaning for ourselves, I’d like to have some meaning to my life.
What do we do with our one time in these bodies? I say we do what feels good.
What feels good to me is being in a community. Specifically one centered around music and joy, with a healthy balance of challenges and rest.
Paradoxically, something that’s helped me manifest this is regularly acknowledging it doesn’t matter.
When you believe something matters, you’re more likely to strain and cling to get what you perceive to be a positive outcome. When you believe something matters, you’re more likely to get upset when things don’t go the way you wanted them to. It makes you less present because at some level, you’re worried.
When you remind yourself the outcome doesn’t matter to the universe, the stakes feel lower. This allows you to relax into the moment more.
Life is a continuous loop of going after what you want, getting caught up in the chase, then remembering you don’t need it because you don’t need anything.
At the end of the loop, you can return to an internal place where everything is okay…before feeling the pull to start the chase again.
How long that loop lasts is perhaps the closest thing that comes to mattering. Does it last days, weeks, years?
How long do you go caught up in it before remembering everyone on Earth will be dead in 100 years? How long are you in a rush before remembering the Sun will make Earth uninhabitable in 1 billion years?
This post is a reminder that healthy detachment can help you get what you want.
It’s also a reminder that you can create your meaning simply by choosing something to believe in. And it doesn’t have to matter for you to believe in it.
